Adventures in Networking!

Why search for a job before you need it

2012-02-11T22:39:00.000-08:00

When I was a University student,
we never talked about job search

Things have changed! Wonderful chance to give a keynote talk at my beloved University of Toronto today to a huge group of students at "Connections 2012". A personal dream for me to speak in "the great hall" at Hart House

Those attending responded to something I've been including in all my networking talks, but never posted.

WHY you need to think about your next job, office, boss before you decide to change jobs. My example? Dating!

If you put an ad in a paper and said I'm going to read all the responses, interview five and let one of them into my life for at least a couple years...people would say you're nuts. But THAT'S how we search and hire! In fact I would say we need even MORE scrutiny on a job search than dating....Why?

When dating, evenings and weekends together amount to a couple dozen hours at best - when you get hired you're together 35 hours minimum right away!!

No one you date decides your salary, which pays for your food and shelter. When you break up with someone it may hurt but you can still pay the rent..when we get fired and may lose the ability to eat someone ironically says "it's nothing personal"

Maybe down the line you and this stranger might move in together but when you shake that hand and sign employment papers you get your gear and move in right away! This is marriage on the first date!!

And my personal favourite the quirky little thinks that are cute when you first start dating are insanely annoying to a new stranger in the next cubicle and will give you both an ulcer!!

SO!!

If you know what sector you work in, think about your top three possible employers. Get out to their offices, walk in the front door and yes look around! If you're a work-life balance person, try to meet some of their staff in professional but non-office settings to discuss what life is like there!

I once literally was sitting with a peer who was staring across a huge 2000 person conference luncheon at one Executive.

"Who is that?" I asked.
"I want it to be my next boss" they said.
"Oh, do they know who you are?" "Uh no."

"Does anyone at the company know of your passion to work there?" "Uh no"

"Have you done any homework to find out if it's a good place to work?"

Are you just staring at this person trying to hypnotize them into hiring you?! "I guess".

So over the next year ( take your time, make it casual, this is a stakeout )
So get out there and meet your top three possible bosses
Find an excuse to peep the office space and get the scoop on life inside
Do your @#$Q#$#@$@ homework on the work they do!
If you are the person they want to work with, with the skills they need -
then blog, tweet, use LinkedIn updates, groups, answers - get noticed!

It was a true pleasure to meet a passionate bunch of students today
But passion without action is a waste of energy and time, a dream
Are you a dreamer? Or are you a do-er.

If you are going to DO something...
remember I'm here and at your service...
ready to strategize at Starbucks - my treat.

After all, you don't go looking for a date ON Valentines day...right?

Paul

Pink Ribbons Inc. - A first step to dialogue

2012-02-04T23:27:00.000-08:00

I'm sweating a bit. Nervous. Never wrote a post that the potential to outright anger so many people.

So let me start with a key disclaimer. I am a man, and I really despise it when men talk about women's issues when they are not educated or experienced in any way about them. I have never interacted with the cause of breast cancer as a fundraiser - so in some ways I offer an objective perspective on this film. BUT I won't be commenting on the 'issue' of breast cancer or the politics of the work. You could fill the state of Texas with what I don't know, so I won't weigh in on something I'm ignorant about.

My interest in making sure I got to the pre-screening of this film was as a fundraiser ( and although my current job doesn't look like traditional fundraising I've been in the sector for over a decade ). I've been waiting for a film like this for a long time.

You see this kind of documentary is both a fundraisers greatest nightmare...and kind of our secret joy.

As a profession, we're supposed to stand up for peers, cause marketing, event planning and dollars raised. As individuals often we feel disconnected from the actual way dollars are spent, research is done and for those of us not in that part of the sector ( that's me ) find mega-events and personal-ask programs distasteful ( like big firm lawyers who have to stand side by side with peers who advertise in washroom stalls - both do honourable important work but one has a crisp-easy-clean lifestyle and the other has the guts to mix it up to help honest hard working folks but is seen as unpleasant ).

I was relishing the tough questions for the fundraising profession - so the film like many documentaries quickly sets about establishing the crusaders ( historians against the cure for the cure ) , the honourably outraged ( a stage four survivor focus group that drops emotional bombs throughout the movie that blow out your senses with real human questions that take you off the course, a discussion about the machine ) and the enemy ( corporate-friendly nonprofit leaders complete with anti-hero, conveniently botoxed to fuel more outrage ). My sadness is that the tone and conversation stayed there in this loop of very focused accusation towards a short list of sinners when the naughty list of "pinkwashers" is so much, much bigger.

But it was a damn good and powerful start to the dialogue.

Although it didn't have the teeth I wanted, I still think it's 100% required viewing for all career fundraisers. You may even find some peace here seeing questions asked that you've wished to raise in your organization. Maybe your donors and the community of the cause you serve will rise up and start asking questions too. The public often thinks fundraisers are bounty hunters but I suspect ( and the few blogs from more official peer sources like CharityVillage.com and Hilborn, Canada's two largest fundraising enews teams seem to agree ) that they welcome and encourage this conversation.

Don't get me wrong, when I say it has dulled edges I mean on the fundraising front - on the cause of cancer side there are some gut-wrenching scenes, discussions and discoveries. A scene with thousands participating in a run past the Egyptian pyramids really messed me up, everyone knows the pink thing has gone far but just how far will scare you. That being said, it is SO EASY to vilify corporations for flogging the cause and members of the public to get slactivated ( thanks Lee Rose ) but as the fundraisers in events/cause marketing always show me, the numbers don't lie - $ is raised, people come out - EVERYONE wants to help, to honestly express love, loss, grief, anger but no cause is so simple that you can take aim, come together and "end" it.

In the end, like most members of the public, I'm like this dog. We're covered in pink and we don't really have a choice nor do we really understand why. Question is, will this movie move you enough to bite something? Someone?

The pink-pirates are betting no.

Because that first someone is going to be your best friend whose mom has cancer - but somewhere we have to have this discussion.

I for one hope for my profession, it's a big time discussion at the major conferences we have coming up.

In the meantime, I know it won't be date night at the movies but I highly highly encourage you to get out and watch this movie. Happy Superbowl Sunday.

Want to watch it as a group with a discussion afterward?
Let me know, I'll set it up.

Paul

Ps. In case you're worried, high production value, good pacing/editing this didn't win at TIFF for no reason, it's a high quality doc.

PPs. The NFB is a national treasure. Canada is greater for its' existence.

Job Search Resources

2012-01-24T20:13:00.000-08:00

Some people love to travel the world.
I love the road. The drive.

Sure the changing colours of Canada in the fall is inspirational. But for me, there is something healing in that open road. Alone in the dark on a long drive is where I get to reconnect with me.

In a city like Toronto, being a family man, there are people around always. Light always, noise always. In the dark, focused on that white line, belting out odd but loved songs...
start with, quirky , plucky, inspirational , jazzy , cheesy , soulful , ends with
I can't explain why this means so much to me.

Recently I've been having trouble explaining a couple things in my networking travels ...

AS USUAL, MY NETWORK FOUND THE PERFECT ANSWERS
Yet another benefit of social media.

Working in charities for the past 11 years, job search in non-profit has been my life. Through Humber and Georgian College Fundraising Programs I interact with a lot of students too. Here is one of the best posts I have ever read on preparing for a social sector ( or any ) job search!

11 Tips for a Successful NFP Job Search by Rosetta Thurman

This past couple year I have become an avid promoter of social media. For work, career, enriched life and especially job search.
I have never been able to articulate this second topic that is CRITICAL in 2012 for the skilled knowledge economy leader:

7 Reasons Every Job-Seeker Needs to Blog by Mark Shaefer

A big thanks to Annette Penney of Inspire & Aquire. We met through a LinkedIn session I was giving with the great folks at Social Media Breakfast Waterloo - she has given my twitter feed new life since we connected! I urge you to follow her too.

Lastly, now that I'm no longer working for a charity I want to point out to readers and peers that although it may look like I'm patronizing with advice, my goal is only to provide resources to serve.

I am truly at your service in job and anything else my network seeks.

I call my network "the army of the passionate" - is this you? If it is, please engage on twitter or subscribe to this or my book blog - we could use...somebody like you!

Starting 2012 - ASK - What about me?

2012-01-14T16:02:00.000-08:00

I got a lot of response when I announced that I was going to start 2012 with a newtorking retreat and the questions keep coming this week, how'd it go?
Thoughts, learnings?

It was a great group, more than I thought I'd get, top top network contacts - not a slouch amoung them. Three golden crabs too, nice bonus.

When we went around the room thoughts turned to challenges in 2011. Wow. Not betraying anyone's trust but the lesson is, it is the life stuff not the work stuff, that derails and brings us low. I think it was comforting to know successful folks of all professions struggle with these issues. The greatest of my mentors were all affected most highs and lows - by non-work challenges. So, big lesson here, a book I read a few years ago really hit this home - even success can be toxic. Cause us to lose focus. Pay attention to health, quality of live, loved ones, parents and kids don't wait until crisis hits to treasure them!
It's not corny, it's good business advice!

Business discussion! Wonderful to have former CAGP GTA Chair Colleen Bradley with us. Besides her wonderful work helping charities with Planned Giving she has a passion for helping professionals refocus & rejuvenate ( look for a session on this in 2012 ).

She asked three key questions and a powerful theme.
I challenge YOU to ask yourself these before January is over.

Theme: What about us?
Fundraisers, givers, doers... we do for others.
We don't ask this question. We just git 'er done.

Question 1. Personally: What are you grateful for?
Leader, Director and blogger Kimberley Mackenzie wrote
a wonderful post today, that got me off my duff
to make my list - very simple stuff. Powerful. Do it.

Question 2. Professionally: When did I win?
The great Seth Godin, marketing maverick, wrote a post on this today. Write down your professional successes from 2011. Declare your awesomeness, without ego or hubris

In room, alone.
Look at this list and declare.
With an Iron Fist of Fury. I rule.

Question 3: What do I WANT in 2012?
Both personally and professionally, this is not work strategic planning. I mean for you.
A short simple list.
Then, SHARE it with your network.
Give it power by declaring you'll do it and by asking your network, your personal army
for help in getting there.

Lastly, I mentioned in the last post that the retreat was going to be a potluck. Yikes!

A bit of a loaves and fishes situation.

Let talented people 'chip in' and beware!
Generosity is coming.

Does the word bounty come to mind?

A beautiful expression of what happens when a network comes together.

We literally can feed each other. Solve, serve, save.

Needless to day a retreat is in order. At least once a year.
A moment to STOP. No net, twitter, phones etc.. there's power in this.

What about me? Paul Nazareth?
In 2011, a job change beyond my wildest dreams came knocking
No exaggeration, my network made that possible

In 2012, my biggest simplest goal is to get to the East Coast to do business.
Halifax in particular.

Time to share network...Goals, I want them..
I look forward to LinkedIn updates, tweets and emails

So when problems push back and tell you -
"You can't do it, there are other priorities, people and things to worry about"
Your answer will be turning to your network and asking...
What are we doing here?

Look out 2012, we're coming.

Paul

2011 Golden Crab Awards

2012-01-02T13:07:00.000-08:00

Note: You'll understand this post better if you read last year's post when I gave out this award for the first time.

If you read my post last year you'll know that I chose the crab because it's a food you can only eat with focus, with people close to you because it's messy and it's rare.

These four people have proved themselves my MVP's of 2011.

Last year was about focus and refinement. They helped me change my world, and it did change with a massive job move that was beyond my wildest dreams - it would NOT have happened with out the GC's of 2010.

The GC's of 2011 were chosen again using my handy excel networking tracking sheet (exported from LinkedIn ofcourse) that helps me remember:
- Who collaborated with me to connect the most
- Who is a great tag-team networker in virtual and reality reality?
- Who do I admire for something they created of value to my network
- Who pushed me to do something amazing? And who pushes others too?
- Who acted with vicious integrity, unwavering kindness and consistency?
- Who created a strong brand of their own, taught me how to use it to help others?

These ( in no order ) are my Golden Crabs for 2011.
* There is no physical reward for this award only my undying gratitude, respect, admiration and servitude

John Lepp - It was John who showed me the power of social media in late 2009. His are the words I have used to bring social media into the lives of hundreds this past year... " you don't have to talk, you can just listen first". His is a voice more personal and challenging than I'm comfortable with (like another social media expert un-guru Claire Kerr ) but I know that he, like previous GC Promod is not just a Seth Godin tribe member he LIVES the challenge. He is a business owner, charity supporter, father, foodie - the man is everything I want to be. His authenticity is often mistaken for arrogance, don't be fooled. He challenges us to embrace our excellence, not apologize for it. Although he doesn't often leave the shire, he is ever-present in my life and the lives of his tribe. In 2011 I became an Agent of Good and haven't looked back. Thank you John.

Another team member in my social media journey is Clare McDowall. I feel like I'm confessing to professional online dating but yes, we met because of twitter. To be more accurate we met because of the amazonian superhero Kimberley MacKenzie who held a tweetup to welcome Clare when she landed in Toronto from Glasgow Scotland. Very quickly Clare became one of my social media teachers as she created a consulting firm but was snatched up by a smart charity. Clare was present, active and always up to collaborate but was out front too. She was the prime motivator behind "Be Good Be Social Toronto" which realized a professional dream for me, the first conference session on my business passion - LinkedIn. Like the other GC's she is one of the hungriest, collaborative people I know.

I would remiss if I didn't note that John and Clare also showed me the power of a device I hated simply because it came from the wrong side of the digital tracks. The iPad. Seeing Clare in action and John's advice help me overcome my PC upbringing and dive in to a new world.

The youngest GC is Brock Warner. Another rider in my social media posse his greatest value came from being the ultimate tag-team networker when working a room or conference. He was a big part the creation of one of the most powerful parts of Toronto's fundraising community in 2011 - YNPCanada. The team at Stephen Thomas leads in a lot of ways, but it was their all out support of young talent through "Young Non-Profit Professionals Canada" that made the earth move. Outside of his work Brock participates, collaborates and supports others in much the same philosophy I do. A champion alumni of the Humber College Fundraising Program, he stepped up his game in 2011 with a Tedx talk. To be part of his network is an exciting privilege, I love that I'm always a little afraid that he's going to beat me at being me. I love that he's no swagger, but all game.

Last but certainly not least the lone un-fundraiser, Lisa Taylor. If I was a robot, I would have been manufactured at Lisa's business. The Challenge Factory , if it got any cooler it would be illegal. Test driving careers? Lisa and I teamed up for a session this past April to help for-profit folks transition into non-profit fundraising. She has remained a serious networking partner and in the last quarter of the year invited me to her local BNI ( Business Networking International ) chapter sparking a minefield of business explosions that rocked December and continue to pay dividends in 2012. When people ask me, "Paul who in your network is a MUST know" in 2012, I will answer. Lisa Taylor.

Shout outs to a few institutions that rose above this year:

- the Hilborn team for having a 2.0 dialogue with your loyal supporters
- PG Growth and GPIC for championing my beloved Gift Planning
- Georgian College for giving me a shot to make a difference
- Humber College for not resting on laurels and inviting me to party
- Hutchison Smith for their new endeavour "Charity Executive"
- Crawford Connect, research in fundraising employment excellence
- Again, Stephen Thomas for creating
- Zipcar for continuing to be my customer service gold standard
- Starbucks Canada for showing the corporate sector how to tweet 2.0

If you are reading this, I hope this post makes you ask who was of most value in your professional life this past year? If you want an intro to these folks, let me know.

I'm grateful for the chance to recognize them publicly and to YOU dear reader for finding some value in this post.

A big thanks to the hundreds in my network who help and fight for me. Know that I'm in your corner, ready to spring into service - just ask, invite, call, tweet, post...

I exist for and because of my network.

Let's get out there and kick 2012's ass.

Paul

Crabs, a standing O for you...and a tribute from the fab four...

Fundraisers healing retreat - 7 Jan 2012

2011-12-26T22:32:00.000-08:00

This will be the most complex networking event I've ever run
the post personal, it's about pain
the most uncomfortable, I am not allowed to wear a suit
the most fun, it's about positivity
the most yummy - it's an optional potluck!

This year I hosted a going away party for a long time fundraising peer. Invited a few guests and I ended up making dinner for 26. It was exhilarating to have so many positive people in my network meet and FOCUS on real relationship building.

We say that phrase a lot.

Relationship building.

In a sector where turnover is 18 months and being fired out of the blue - is common and kept quiet. Where we can be at conferences attended by hundreds and still not be able to spend 10 minutes really connecting.

Where the top five answers to how are you are:
- Busy
- Crazy
- Going all out, don't know when or how to stop
- Surviving
- All of the above

Fraser Green, a long time peer and speaker did something about it. He wrote a book to help us heal our organizations and start on ourselves.

This retreat is about YOU
There will be NO drum circle
We will NOT sing kumbaya
We WILL have fun

It's on a farm, we'll meet, talk, connect
share a meal
spend some time

Then, spend some time on the farm and you're encouraged to think.

About 2011
About 2012
About your career, life and future

I love this farm.
The University of Toronto gave me my career and life. I've been going to this farm to think, before every major life decision and change. First job, marriage, dream job, baby etc.. it's just 45mins from the CN Tower.

Join me on Saturday January 7 at 9am ( ish ), done by early afternoon.
Closed invitation list - 1st LinkedIn connections known peers preferred
Fundraisers are the focus, charity/ forprofit peers VERY welcome
ALL invites are negotiable - as my twitter handles says....

Cost: $10 (UofT fee to visit farm) if you're bringing food, $15 if not.

Let me know if you're interested....

I exist to help my network make life and career intentionally awesome. Let's challenge some issues, set some goals so we can achieve them together - no more balancing on edge to survive - let's thrive in 2012!!

To quote the existential video below

"What do you want to do with your life?"

paul

Reader chosen value - Top Posts of 2011

2011-12-26T21:26:00.000-08:00

A little while back I was speaking with an architect I highly respect and I asked him "why did you put such an odd winding path in that location"?

He answered that it was an old architect trick, open the building and wait for the people who use it to wear a path in the grass. It will be the most convenient path between two points of importance the architect may never understand....but it is critical to them - and so he waits -and makes a formal path there later.

I believe - that people vote with their feet.
Here on the interwebs people vote with clicks

So, hoping it's of value to you, this is what you told me were the most valuable reads of 2011:

LinkedIn Tips

I don't want your resume

Who's got your back? The secret partner

Young NonProfit Canada - A new community

Business Cards

Social Media Breakfast - Secrets of LinkedIn

2010 Golden Crab Awards

Some folks don't know I also have a business book blog
because not everyone can follow my Amazon book list on LinkedIn

Here are the top five reviews readers chose in 2011

The New Leader's 100 Day Action Plan

UnMarketing: Stop Marketing. Start Engaging

LinkedIn Log - The greatest resource on LinkedIn yet!

Top 7 must read books on Networking

Books dealing with bosses and trouble at work

As we head into 2012 I hope to continue to be of value,
thanks for investing your time with me and remember, when I say
"I'm at your service"

I mean it.

So get in touch and keep in touch.

Paul

Wine Music and Gratitude for the Holidays

2011-12-23T22:37:00.000-08:00

Great Canadian jazzman Oscar Peterson once said

“It’s the group sound that’s important, even when you’re playing a solo. You not only have to know your own instrument, you must know the others and how to back them up at all times. That’s jazz.”

I feel the same way about networking, but I am really enjoying getting back into and learning more about jazz.

A big part of that education is a great Canadian radio station, Jazz FM 91

At this time of year they have a 24 hour music stream of Holiday Music made possible by the kind folks at Magnotta.

So I made a promise on twitter, just wanted to share that the promise had been kept. I visited my local store today and made my Christmas purchases at Magnotta in gratitude for their generous gift that I've been enjoying all season.

Now, just to share, they say that because they sell direct their costs are lower to consumers - as a consumer, I have to say they aren't kidding! Not just regular wine but some of Canada's best Icewine at impressive prices.

Ever shopped at Magnotta? Check out their holiday newsletter - maybe pay them a visit. If you do, I'd love a comment on the page...

A great adperson once said " I know half my advertising dollars make me money, problem is, I don't know which half" - Well Magnotta team, please know that you have a new customer and promoter because of this sponsorship - thank you.

Best wishes for a wonderful holiday season and new year! Paul

Like you'll get when you visit a store...here's a taste of Magnotta!

Magnotta Winery by mgongea

Closed Networking Event - January 4 - Downtown

2011-12-20T22:21:00.000-08:00

Seven months ago I changed jobs and moved from a charity in uptown Toronto.. to the dreaded for profit world on Bay St. in the financial district

Fascinatingly enough, hundreds in my network didn't see the change.

So here I am on Bay St. and those in my established team who don't know each other have run out of time.

As a charity there was chance we might work together, as a business professional I will be turning to them, referring business to them and as my best contacts you all should know each other - that's what I owe you.

So! What better way to start the year off right than to meet and introduce you to each other.
What better place than my new den of vice - business book heaven!!

Did anyone KNOW Canada's largest business bookstore lives on Bay St?
( how is this a surprise I don't know, what a dork )

January 4, 2012
5:05pm to 6:30pm
120 Adelaide at York St.
Drop in and out when you can

Bring business cards or I will hurt you

LinkedIn 1st connections only..
Those who work south of Dundas, East of University,
West of Church and North of the Lake are my focus
Exceptions are always on the table, email me if you'd like to attend.
As always I'll be hosting more open events
but this one is all about the network of profit
( for-profit and social-profit of course )

Cost?
This time there is a price.
The kind folks at Books for Business are hosting usCome ready to buy one book to start your year off right

If you want a recommendation browse my book blog - or email me as I've read 300+ titles in this store and would love to share one I think could be of value to you!

Two of my strongest passions, networking and business books together?

Now THIS is the way to start a damn good year.

Join me won't you?

Ps. If you haven't heard of Books for BusinessFollow their blog
Tweet 'em
Link in with 'em

PPs. Bay St. isn't SO bad. Here's a Toronto video I'm in love with right now. If you look closely at 2:29 you can see me turn on the lights in my new office!

Toronto Tempo from Ryan Emond on Vimeo.

Social Media Breakfast

2011-12-18T21:47:00.000-08:00

Anyone who knows me know that networking
is my oxygen and LinkedIn is my lungs

Special thanks to James Howe and the "Social Media Breakfast" Waterloo team for bringing me
out to KW to share my passion for LinkedIn

I promised the presentation ( slideshare) and links to all those who attended. But before I go into those my three thoughts to sum up the entire presentation:

1) In 2012, get your personal profile in order! Optimized for your goal be it job search, career development, general networking or to help others. Here are my tips and the big resource I shared that day

2) Get your company profile taken to the next level. I cited " Johnnie Walker's LinkedIn Page " and campaign as an example of a company page gone right. Get yours in order today

3) Social Media, besides LinkedIn is going to be the way business is done in the next decade. The dirty one seat to the left is "push business marketing" the one way we did business for the past many years. I love this seat on the Toronto subway, it's the ONLY private seat with no one touching or bothering me - it's about control. Enter the NEW subway, open, interactive all the way through. This is web 2.0, the NEXT way to communicate. It represents a loss of control but greater opportunity to connect and do business. You have NO choice - start experimenting in this space today, or soon you'll be left looking for a seat!

So! Links promised:

Books mentioned that help us think HOW to communicate in a Web 2.0 way:
- The Power of Pull
- UnMarketing
- Fascinate
- Enchantment

Books on LinkedIn:
- Best! New LinkeIn log
- Short and snappy, "I'm on LinkedIn, Now What"
- Most instructive, 2011 Update "LinkedIn for dummies"

Social Media Experts in Non-Profit to follow/connect with:
- Agents of Good
- Stephen Thomas - Best LinkedIn company page
- Good Works

Digital Social Media Conference for Non-Profits 2012

Innovative charity example: Small Change Fund
- Kitchener connection
- YouTube channel
- LinkedIn page

LinkedIn instructional video on Groups

Ethically Influencing - Jill Donohue

LinkedIn customizing company: LinkedIn Developers

Book on turnkey sales solutions, "The Best Service is No Service"

Special thanks to the team for uploading the presentation on YouTube! Follow along with the powerpoint - It's an hour, feel free to skim, even I can't listen to myself for that long...

Paul Nazareth

Ps. That resource, the LinkedIn log is an amazing way for those who don't get linkedin to engage it. It's only $10 online so get it and make 2012 the year get your digital self together!

The Walper Hotel

2011-12-17T05:34:00.000-08:00

Every once in a while you get tired of cookie-cutter everything

This week I was excited to be invited to the Kitchener-Waterloo area to speak about a passion of mine, LinkedIn.

I was staying overnight but speaking to a very cool group called Social Media Breakfast - so I wanted to find a SM enlightened hotel. And I'm cheap and bored with cookie-cutter hotel chains.

Enter the Walper

Right downtown ( I'm so sick of walking across massive parking lots to get to some form of life ) and a Heritage property which so much character it actually inspires creativity!

My stay was perfection for the business traveller, I came in late and every detail was handled in seconds. Such a beautiful room with high ceilings and new design touches too. Free wifi, a 2011 must.

I will admit to being nervous as I'm a bit of a hypochondriac, but phew! Spotless washrooms and everything else..

Two touches I have to mention that I really found valuable:

1. That they have a theme for their philanthropy and they share it well

2. For the business traveler, the concept of a "grab and go" breakfast on my door handle early in the morning so I can eat on the run - BRILLIANT. I can't go to one more horrible continental breakfast bar. Yogurt, fruit, juice n' oats.

This is a creative place for people that value inspiration and comfort.

That it was ONE THIRD less than local chains like the Raddison and Holiday Inn didn't hurt at all.

A tip for network and tweeps - hope it's of value.

And to the Walper staff?
I tweeted, you responded. Kudos, it's why I booked.

The handwritten, personalized welcome card on my nightstand with an organic honey-oat bar?
Home run.

Thank you. Paul

The secret is in the follow up! AFP Congress 2011

2011-11-29T20:54:00.000-08:00

They say it's not how you start
but how you finish.

The networking secret is actually in the follow up.

So another AFP Congress is closing up
You went to sessions, nuggets of wisdom
Maybe an afterparty, connections made
Had a pace-buddy? Bonded with a crew?
Close the deal my friend - my humble suggestions:

1) EMAIL - Every card you picked up.
Don't lose even the lightest connections made. You never know when you'll need their help or when they can help you!

2) Write a card.
Handwritten yes!! The internet has killed civility! Bring it back by picking up a blank card, writing a note about the impact this person had on you, what you learned from them ( speaker at a session, someone you had a great conversation with, someone who taught you something ) and throw in a business card ( yes, even if you already gave them one )

3) Do the social media thing.
Notice, this is #3. Yes I'm the LinkedIn enthusiast and I'm telling you DON'T send connection requests to everyone you met - do you go steady before the first date? Spend some time before you write their name in ink in your digital-addressbook. DO follow them on Twitter though! It's the passive non-intrusive networking tool so follow everyone you met!

4) MAKE a meeting - connect some how.
That thing on your desk that makes noise now and then? It's a phone, call someone in town and if they're out of town ask them when they'll be in town. If you met someone who rocked your Congress off - make a meeting happen. Keep the learning going.
And lastly - Action!
Go over your notes in max 1 hour
Triage on Post-It notes: Ideas for you, for others, for 2012
Put them out of sight but in your path when you return
I know, lots of digging out to do, it's year-end after all.

I had an absolute blast being on the Twitter team and am grateful to the Congress team for their welcoming dynamic attitude.

We all congratulate Cynthia, Dorothea, Chris and the Volunteer leaders on a job bloody well done - home stretch people!

Finish your race delegates but remember, if you don't follow up.
What do you really gain from attending?

Want to prove to your organization it was worth sending you?
Show them the money! And you'll make MORE - if you follow up.

Paul

45 seconds and not a second more

2011-11-24T21:14:00.000-08:00

I've visited many chapters of the world's best networking association. Yes the BEST.

Business Networking International is not just an inspiration because they're great at networking, are focused on actual revenue but I love their motto:

Givers Gain.

Today I visited a super-chapter in Toronto
hosted by my networking superhero Lisa Taylor of Challenge Factory

They have an exercise that I adore.
It reminds me how shabby my networking is.
45 second intro.

Sounds easy right?

Let me tell you what the best fit in 45 seconds:
- Who you are
- What you do
- What your ideal client referral looks like
- What you want
- A big hairy goal
- A story of what good business looks like for you
- Asking for referrals
- Humour

Some used iphone stopwatches, most didn't.

Get working yours, practice it daily.

BNI is the Ninja training of networking
This is the Wushu school of business

Those of you heading to AFP Congress this week....
Be warned.

For anyone in business, consider joining your local
It will make you money
It will change your life

Paul

Get thee to AFP Congress! My story

2011-11-12T23:02:00.000-08:00

You changed my life when we first met.
You have helped so many, you give so much.
I respect you, I want to be with you
and now, we can be together.
AFP Congress, you had me at hello.

In 2000 I got a job in fundraising
but it was my first Congress in 2001 when I knew this would be my career.

Like so many fundraisers,
at work, I was a leper,
an ambulance chaser
the person sent after little old ladies for bequests
A necessary evil

And I show up to this huge conference,
full of peers it wasn't just about the learning,
but there was much to learn
it was about the vendors, information sharing, networking

Here, people knew my worth and value
I am a bit of a romantic and I love the changing of the seasons.
That first day when I left Congress I walked up University Ave.
The sky opened up, and the first snow fell
And I was transformed, in a phone booth

I wrote my personal mission statement
scribbled it in that booth, it serves me to this day.
Since then I went back a few more times learned so much,
made so many connections but then, something changed.
You see, like event, telephone and direct mail fundraisers
I am a specialist, a gift planner

We are served skillfully by the Canadian Association of Gift Planners
who embraces charity staff and financial/legal advisors alike
So for a number of years I could only be a member of CAGP
I got to a few AFP sessions but not many
I missed that big picture, the community spirit,
the professional diversity and networking big picture
I needed to get back

So in 2004 I snuck into Congress as a woman!
Sorry, no cross-dressing involved
- the huge org I worked for let 15+ of us share a registration,
we had to hand off the nametag to each other on breaks
A wonderful peer named Alexandra, (code name Alex)
handed me a nametag in the washroom area and I was back in!!

The glory and pageantry of the awards luncheon!
The engaging and dynamic exhibitors!
Jaded vets and doe-eyed newbies all networking, solving problems
It was like a spa-day for your professional soul
Screw chicken soup- Congress is what the doctor really ordered.

Since then, the investment of many mentors and my passion for planned giving has allowed me to attend as a speaker a few times. A supporter and at times fan. At times groupie, I've crashed the party for the past couple years

To bring new members into the fold
to promote Canada's largest fundraising conference
and the wonderful book booth too few people visit

This year, AFP has asked me to participate in a number of ways
speaking at sessions and helping with networking programs.
My current employer agrees as I do
- Canadian philanthropy is better because of AFP
we need to cultivate and grow membership and the network
so I am again, for the first time in almost seven years
A proud member of the Association of Fundraising Professionals!

Although, I'm no longer a "fundraiser" on paper
I am still a charitable gift planner
I will always be a fan,
a groupie, permission or not, because of my debt to repay

So I won't be at the whole conference but I'll be there Monday night to network run a book booth tour and to contribute to the evening dinner dine-around

Wednesday night, I'll be running my "unofficial" after-party for the wonderful students of Humber and ANY others who wish to join us

But if you are a stranger
Maybe you are on the fence
let me share - it's worth it.
Every penny, every moment invested

Let's be honest,
the public
doesn't like fundraisers
no one
likes fundraising
who stands up for what we do
who believes
in the excellence of how we do it?
A F P - that's who

Fraser Green, one of those veteran fundraisers talks about saving your soul in his latest book

You will save it here
Passion starts here
GET THEE ----- TO CONGRESS

Come with me
Crash with me
AFP rules

Paul

Ps. This is not meant to be smart or witty
I'm not a fundraising superstar, a leader or big name
I'm just some dork who loves what we do, believes it's awesome
THIS is how Congress makes me feel,
about us, about our profession and what we do

A moment to remember

2011-10-24T20:50:00.000-07:00

About five days ago
...my 91 year old grandmother passed away

The usual wakes, family flying into town and funeral ensued.
No one can walk away without a bit of reflection.

I was lucky to have my grandmother for a long time.
She met my little guy, her great grandson. Lucky him.

Wouldn't say she had a 'good' death
( like saying you had a 'good' colonoscapy, it is what it is. )
But she had a good life, one I only saw a snapshot of as a grandchild.
Things I'm looking forward to learning about:
- her middle was Quintera?!
- she was a savvy small business owner, when widowed young with 4 kids
- she had a lead foot and drove like Nascar?

This is us.
She used to insist I looked like local / national weather guy Anwar Knight. Anwar was nice enough to record a Christmas message with me a few years back.

Now, I work in estate and gift planning. I'm also a religious guy.
I'm very comfortable around legacies and death and never sugar coat it.

I'm not sharing to depress you but it gives me joy and strength that every day to know that through our shared profession we celebrate life through legacy philanthropy, save families from pain through our estate planning peers and empower our network through education.

Now:

1. Call your damn Grandparents, tell them you love them.

2. Baby boomers!! Get a digital recorder, video or voice and get that life story together, the lessons learned, the fun stuff, the hard stuff, stuff your parents told you - it's your legacy stupid

3. For pete's sake - if you have kids, make a Will, if you've got aging parents encourage them to pre-plan their funeral/burial instructions. It's not morbid, it will save you emotional distress and ensure their wishes are carried out

- -- I always thought it weird that my Uncle is an international authority on Elvis

Guess not, as per my Grandmother's wishes, this is what we sung at her funeral

See you soon Grannie.

It's not Social - it's Business

2011-10-13T22:02:00.000-07:00

These days, I get patted on the head a lot
Oh, so cute!
Paul likes to use social media like the kids do!
Do you post what you had for lunch on twitter paulie?

I don't mind, I've always loved flying under the radar.
And there are some damn smart people on twitter,
I'd rather have them all to myself.

But I was reading this article in the Globe and Mail today - "Time to adapt to social media - or face the consequences"

Now, I don't like threats but let me share a secret with you.
SOCIAL media is for weekend warriors and tweens.
I'm into BUSINESS media.
It's about relationships, connecting, dialogue.

I participate to create prosperity and abundance
for me, for my network, for you if you're ready.

LinkedIn is the Facebook of Business

Twitter is communicating at the speed of thought

Blogs allow you to explain yourself in detail

Here's the thing. One day soon, everyone is going to have to get on board. You know that day is coming, so why wait and be the last to learn?

All I'm saying is, start lifting light weight!
Create a profile, don't use it. Seriously!
In six months, start to try it out.
If you start today,
you'll have LOTS of time to play with it.
Before it becomes your job.

Lastly, we're in new territory what if you could get the one twitter handle that describes your entire sector! It's like cyber-squatting in the early 2000's!

Get out there, I'm right there with you - treading water and learning.

Soon, you'll be conducting your own social media symphony!
If you want to read ONE book in 2011 about HOW to engage? Read this one.

As always, I'm here to help, Paul

Ps. Here's something to get you thinking....click for link

Full disclosure - the fan is IN the building! Humber Fundraising

2011-10-11T21:30:00.000-07:00

This is post is no secret or surprise.

I've been a fan of the Humber College Fundraising program for a while now...

But from today onward I'll have to use a big fat " * "

You see, I've gone from raving fan,
to new member of the "Advisory Committee"
so when I speak of it I have to "disclose" this connection

BUT MAKE NO MISTAKE - I was a fan first.

Remember when you felt like this
about life and your career?

Since I started in fundraising ( as a "planned giving" guy ) over a decade ago I loved my job but there was one challenge I had yet to tackle...

The dreaded conference speaking session.
So I tried. And bombed.

Then I was asked to join a team speaking to Humber College students about my beloved CAGP and passion for planned giving - I found my voice.

I also found a program that was more intense, supported and networked than any other I had ever seen. One where the students and faculty shared my passion for this work.

Since then I have been lucky enough to be invited for five years to speak to the class, my covert goal to steal the best. I find the brightest, hungriest who are going to make a powerful contribution to the profession and I support them as much as I can.

No secret too that I think the coordinator Ken Wyman is a mensch. Here's why...

And the people I've met, the alumni, the students, the network - frankly it has enriched my life as much as my career

I even teach now at the fantastic Georgian College fundraising program which is national, a different offering than the Humber full time program. Something that would never have happened with out my first opportunity to not just "speak" but "teach"

A special thanks to Rob Peacock who gave me the shot in the arm I needed then and now...a mentor to so many.

Humber wasn't a player when I started fundraising. But when I was a young up and coming fundraising professional, with no name/fame - just passion, experience and a clear vision of how a young person could make a difference, Humber invested in me. I'll never forget and will strive to repay that investment, forever.

Can't wait to meet the class of 2012

Take a quick peek at this video, see just one reason this is such a special program

Paul

Lessons from Kevin O'Leary

2011-09-28T20:44:00.000-07:00

Unless you've been hiding under a rock
You'll know one of Canada's most popular shows, Dragon's Den

Kevin O'Leary is a polarizing force of capitalism
and has just launched a new book!

The best library system ever, TPL had Kevin in for a sold out event tonight he was in fine form and as usual doled out some great stories and lessons

An early story about how he went into business with Don Cherry and then sold those businesses and shows for a profit was fascinating, explains some of his TV persona and how he knows the secret of TV:

WHY does a billionaire have five TV shows and work non-stop?

Answer: Access!

His shows give him daily access to influencers, government and celebrities
Access he couldn't buy if he wanted to.
As he said "money is not power. Information is power"

Great story about when ABC wanted him to promote his new show on "Dancing with the Stars" he said yes and flew to LA for 10 minutes work to network with business hero Steve Wozniak. That meeting Steve gave him a stock tip that made him a lot of money...Networking!

He counts John Lennon as an influence but lives by his code
"the pursuit of money is the quest for freedom and happiness". Not quite "greed is good" but that Canadians needs to stop being ashamed of ambition.

Another great story, he believes "nepotism is a corporate disease", when his son asked him "Dad when we fly, I sit back here and you go to first class"
Yes. His son flies economy.
His response "but son, you have no money!"
He wants him to earn it, no free rides here
"I may give all my money to a cat, I haven't decided yet".

Speaking of animals...Kevin's view on investing? "There is NO place for emotion in investing. You want a friend? Buy a dog".

When he was a child, his mother gave him powerful advice "never invest in any stock that doesn't pay dividends. Period". It's how he runs his investments. He fires anyone who doesn't get it.

During questions he explained the three elements that 100% of successful pitches to Dragon's Den:

1) 90 seconds or less. Period
2) Tell me why YOU are the person who can make it work
3) Be the owner, the leader, don't shy away from your passion, power or knowledge

Lastly, as a networking tip, I encourage a no ego rule. This Billionaire made time to sign every book - very classy.

A truly enjoyable evening, thanks Toronto Public Library!

Kevin, keep it up.

Readers - enjoy this hilarious primo promo!

Just in case you'd like a play by play the ever-awesome Toronto Public Library just posted the event on YouTube!

Enjoy

Going beyond coffee - networking secret

2011-09-11T07:56:00.000-07:00

Howard Schultz, can I call you Howard?

Talks about the "future of Starbucks

being beyond just coffee"

with the change in logo's this year.

I talk a lot about Starbucks on LinkedIn and Twitter

being the the end all and be all of networking

but it's time I clear up the confusion of one key thing....

It's not actually about the coffee!

Not the taste, the presentation or price.

I call Starbucks "my second office" because

it's the environment to conduct business.

In Canada, Tim Horton's is not so much coffee

as it is a religion ( "double double? Amen" )

I used to drive 100,000km a year for work in the 90's

It's what kept me alive ( Extra large, 2 cream, 7 sugars )

And Second Cup, Timothy's and other brands

are good at coffee meets comfort.

But Starbucks is to coffee

What Lexus is to Toyota, Range Rover to Ford

The journey brings pleasure, not just the destination

Even in the advent of the real "second office" and the laptop gollum's who buy two cups and stay 48 hours doling out stinkeyes at anyone who dares have a conversation in their little Lord of the Coffee Rings library/home ... but I digress...

Look at this layout, the better locations

(and on LinkedIn I use a group to source the best locations for meetings )

have a quiet comfortable place to meet.

So, get your coffee from wherever it tastes best to you

Snobbery aside, McCafe and the big M is quickly catching up

to my beloved Tim's as the cup of choice on the run

but when it comes to networking.....

Starbucks Rules.

Ps. Want to know the best way to meet in a coffee shop?

Want to know the BEST place to sit for networking purposes?

Read one or both of these books - they have done wonders for me!

PPs. My last tip is that I give my Starbucks card to the Barista in charge when I'm meeting someone I don't want to fight over who pays. One nod when I approach the counter - and I win. Every time.

The essence of networking

2011-09-03T15:53:00.000-07:00

When I can, I set up small high value events

for small groups in my network, 10 to 15

Like my twitter handle mission states,

you must invite you

The criteria?

- Content is of high value to you in work/life

- Made direct contact with me in virtual or reality reality (past six months)

- Used passive networks ( LinkedIn, Twitter, email ) to share goals and needs

- You seek daily to create prosperity for your network and self

The other day I sent out a highly private invite to 15 people

with only 10 spots at the event

the instructions were strictly no forwarding

this was an offer to you only

But one person, sent me a note right back

"Paul, I want to come, and this would help me a lot

but I know someone who is working on this topic right now.

It could help them more, could they come in my place".

That person's name? Frankie Chow.

He's a member of the 2011 Class at Humber College's

Fundraising and Volunteer Management Postgraduate program

When the moon hits your eye

Like a big pizza pie.

THAT'S AMORE.

When cold hard value drops in your lap

and you don't take it and run but instead ask

"who in my contacts can benefit from this more than me?"

THAT'S NETWORKING.

One day Frankie, you're going to get what's coming to you.

I hope to be around for that great day.

Until then, I'm in your corner rooting for you 200%.

I leave you dear network with a wonderful Toronto band

Listen to the thoughtful lyrics about 50 seconds in if you want to think

If you don't, just enjoy

Either way, happy end of summer.
Fall, that networking powerhouse of productivity approaches...
and I can't wait - see you there.

paul

Suit Up!! Free event Aug 24

2011-08-15T00:06:00.000-07:00

Shopping for work clothes for some
can be heaven...for others, hell.

Me? I live somewhere in between.

I won't lie and say I don't like this game of dress-up - big guys look better in suits (husky, as my dad used to kindly say)

But, I'm picky and hate shopping for what I like.
Most of all, working in non-profit,
for and with the poor at times
I personally find expensive clothes sickening

But! This is a uniform for work,
it shows respect to my peers and those I serve
it gives me confidence to be bold and effective

So, we have to do it...but..
Why can't we like it?
Why can't it be done on a budget?
To quote another well dressed man... YES...We.. CAN!

I've organized a FREE event on August 24
At the awesome new "Network Orange" space in Toronto
RSVP via LinkedIn or Twitter

Yes of course, we'll do a little networking before and after
but we'll gather to listen to two experts:

I was a Tip Top man, following my father's footsteps my whole life
A couple bad customer service and suits in my early working left left me wanting
Then I heard of Tom.

Every man at my non-profit office shopped there so I went to check it out.
He personally put me in the best suit of my life, at the lowest price of my life
I never looked back.

Once a year, I hit one of his sales.
One purchase, three suits for LESS than I used to pay for one suit. Harry Rosen is his buddy, Now Magazine once said..."Tom Mihalik and his team have an eye for classic tailoring and bespoke quality, guaranteeing that while your purchase may be inexpensive, it never looks cheap." - They gave me tips on how to tailor and wear suits that as a co-worker once said to me "makes you feel like a champ". One of Tom's team will be with us...

After asking around it was of course my business networking author/guru Alison Graham, author of "Business Cards to Business Relationships" who connected me with someone who can help the ladies in my network. Erin Nadler is the President of Better Styled, a one-on-one by appointment shopping experience catering to the time starved women seven days a week. Erin has been featured on Canada AM, CHCH, Flare Magazine, Chatalaine, The Sun and Women's Post to name a few.

Lastly, as an added bonus to my network
I have been nagging several folks to get new LinkedIn pictures

So! For five bucks (all of which will go to charity) a professional photographer Ahmed Nizam ( who once took a picture for the super cool TimeRaiser event, which I use as my main social media shot ) will take yours!!

A ton of value
A great evening
I have only 40 spots.

RSVP today, hope to see you there.

Paul

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QUICK UPDATE! - 23 AUG

The event is B.Y.O.N. - Bring your own nametag
Yes I'm cheap, (work tags encouraged )
BUT! There will be two prizes for most creative

A prize for best tweet using #SuitUpToronto

Over $200 in prizes (all donated by my network)

At 8ish, we'll be moving the event to the brand new
Joey's Toronto for libation / sustenance

See you tomorrow!
Bring cards. Be ready.

NEVER cold call - The Informational Interview

2011-08-09T20:17:00.000-07:00

Someone remarked to my wife the other day
"Paul's good at networking eh? I need some help with cold calling".
They meant calling someone up to ask for a job.

Ugh.
Why not instead of asking for a date
- make a booty-call instead?

A cold call is like russian roulette.
Sure you'll win now and then,
but it only takes one loss to die.

Read my lips. NEVER cold call.

These are my secrets. In sharing them I hope they can help you and will also cause me to raise my game!

THE CONCEPT, "networking meeting" or "informational interview"
NOT held for the express purpose of this individual hiring you.
In fact if you ask them to refer you,
give them resumes and ask them to pass it on
or ask them if they're hiring you will burn that contact.

You are gaining a connection that will help you find the job opportunity, who will tell the decision maker about you and who will send you job opportunities. In fact, I often share with peers that the worst time to do this type of networking is when you're looking for a job.

Find the person who has the job you want and learn for the future.
These are the critical questions you should be asking:
- What should I be doing for the next three to five years to be you?
- What does success look like in this sector? To you?
- How did you find your way to this industry and job?
- How have you developed into the leader you are today?
- Who should I be talking to in order to learn about being the best in this profession?

BOOKING THE MEETING
Remember you are on the schedule of the person you're trying to meet with. Scope out locations ( coffee shops, restaurants ) near their office to meet.

If you are trying to stand out or be memorable try and find an alternative place they might not have tried before. Museums and public attractions have beautiful coffee houses that many who work in the area have never visited.

THE MEETING DAY
Never be late. Get to the location early and find the perfect table. I often speak to the staff and let them know I'm having a meeting and that if a fight to pay ensues that I must be the winner. There are so many things you cannot control, manage the things you can.

PREPARE FOR THE MEETING. Do your homework.
Research the company of the person you are meeting with, research the person ( alma mater etc ), research your meeting topic ( industry, job climate etc.. ). Networking is about being fascinating and fascinated, read up on the location, the date, social and political news.

Whatever this person is expecting, be someone different.

DURING THE MEETING
I have mentioned before that pulling your resume at a meeting like this is like accidentally touching hands when you're walking with someone you don't know. It's awkward. Don't do it.
Please refer my most popular blog post ever for a tool that you can use to discuss your key skills, accomplishments and how exactly to connect you forward. Take notes. Remember to be fearless to make promises but take enough notes to keep them if you asked for the meeting.

FOLLOW UP
Remember those promises made I mentioned? The less time between the meeting and the time you send articles, LinkedIn connection requests etc.. the most you impress this contact. It means if they refer you that you can be trusted to follow up in a timely professional fashion. Make no mistake, it's a test.

How about a curve-ball here. The internet has killed civility. Bring it back by sending a hand-written note card of thanks for time, help and insight. My secret tip is to have the card ready, stamped and addressed to send as soon as the meeting is over. Will help you make sure you complete it when you get back to the busy office.

READY, SET, NETWORK!
Why aren't you having more of these meetings?
It's not a cold call if you've kept in touch.
Make every call, a warm call.

Make sure you build your career by using meetings like this to learn about your industry, next steps in your career and to benefit your network!

I have three a week face to face. Minimum
7:30am at the 'Bucks or lunch if it's a must

I truly hope this has been of help,
please feel free to send me comments and questions.

Paul

Sunnyside Beach Art Show, Sale & Sponsorship

2011-08-08T21:08:00.000-07:00

I was born in Toronto

I deeply love this city and it never fails to delight and amaze me
I am fascinated by art and the conversations it creates
both internal and external

Much of my network loves Toronto too
Many of them are Dragonboaters who practice at Sunnyside
Others love art and need an excuse to get down to the lake...

Too many don't know about this amazing art event each September

Take a gander

Sure you have to get there but I'm writing to my business network to ask you to consider sponsoring an event that supports not just art but engagement in our beloved city.

I've crunched the numbers, affordable sponsorship rates,
good location, good traffic, three days of visibility
great media coverage
and because it's a sale, you reach a quality target market.

I have the direct hook-up to the contacts and rates
or you can contact them yourself.

Either way, please share:

Video: http://youtu.be/CMaPA-XnZTM

Site: http://www.artinitiatives.ca/sunnyside

Tweet away! @sunnyside_art

Angelika and Ania, what a great job you do of spreading the word...

Long live Toronto, love life and public art

See you there, Paul

Heroes in our Midst

2011-08-02T00:00:00.000-07:00

A recent post by a leader in my sector
Kimberley MacKenzie who manages a non-profit
highlighted the superheros in her team
I loved it, and it stuck in my head...

I just returned today from watching
Captain America - I'm a long time comic book fan so it was fun.
But it got me thinking about two people
one I know, another I read about today in the Globe
they should be referred to as Captain India & Captain Kenya

Captain Kenya, along with his countrymen are world class athletes but they work day jobs to make ends meet and they have left behind families that they love

Captain India is a peer of mine,
an experienced banker
Who came here to try and make a better life
for his family but they are not here,
and he works so hard out of love for them
his love, often moves to me to prayers, and tears

These men, work, do their best
they don't party, go to cottages, bbq's or golf
they work and sleep with singular focus

Today in Canada is a holiday.
I spent this day with my wife and son
who I love almost with desperation
I spent much of the day thinking about these two Captains
their courage and love
I admire and respect them so much

Like so many superhero's with great power
they cannot help the ones they love
but this is real life and we can help

I'll fight until I die for my contact
I hope someone steps up and help the Kenyans
If you have a hero like this in your life
Let me know, we should help them together
We should be their Captain Canada!

(*Apologies to my female readers for the sexist post
I know their wives work just as hard in harder conditions
to care for the children back in their home countries.
I value and respect them too. But I only know the dudes.
I hope to meet those families soon. )

Conference Networking

2011-07-25T21:10:00.000-07:00

A few years ago I was given a gift
by the authors of my favorite networking book: Work the Pond

They shared the secrets of conference networking which they referred to as "the olympics of networking" because a conference has all the toughest elements:
- Breakfast networking
- Session and break networking
- Cocktail receptions and sit down lunches / dinners
- After hours event/social networking

As always, best to consult the experts.
Read the book, visit their site and subscribe to weekly tips!

Here are a few of my favorite's I've picked up along my adventures:

1. Pre-network! Before the conference, get the delegate list early.
Send out emails to peers and set up meetings.
Consider who you want to meet, ask same peers to help you meet them.

2. Don't play by the rules.
If the conference is in your home town,
if the committee hasn't organized an out of towners dinner
- do it yourself!
No cost, just an open invite to anyone who is in town before or after. Last year I did this just using twitter and 60 people showed up!

3. Business cards are the cheapest thing in the world. Don't ever go to a conference with less than a box of them in your suitcase. Consider them to be like lottery tickets, every one given away (with context, not spam) is a possible big score

4. Get people working for you. At the conference be sure to visit the exhibitors, they have made the conference possible. After listening to them, share what you do. Often when they chat with delegates they make connections on your behalf. Remember though, be authentic, promote them when possible, seek first to provide value and it will come to you...

5. Take notes on business cards of cconversations to help you follow up and remember people ( don't write in front of them, in some cultures it's very rude)

6. Dump the lanyard. I don't know about you but I have enough problems in my stomach area, I don't need to draw attention there. Plus they are always flipped over or out of place. Spend the $2 to get a magnetic nametag holder! Most folks have one from work, just slip that one into the conference nametag and toss the lanyard!
Ps. The proper place for a nametag is always as high as possible over your handshake arm.

7. Face time. If you are a night owl, go out, meet people, talk shop ( again, organize a dinner around common challenges ). If you're a morning person, post that you're hosting a walking/running group at X time. You are here to make real connections, know your time of strength and work it.

8. Work those breaks! Don't huddle in the corner on your smartphone. Again, seek first to provide value and others will reciprocate. When you meet someone you know can provide value to others, take 10 cards from them and be sure to share them with others before you leave.

9. Follow up, NOW. Before the conference get 100 blank cards. Return address and stamp them. Fill them out with "great to meet you" "let's book lunch" "that was a great session" "you should meet with " comments and post them before you leave the hotel for home.

10. Don't flush the experience. After the conference, give yourself at least two hours to follow up with emails and calls so you can reap the networking rewards of attending. What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. That's not how you should treat a conference! Follow up, share contacts, book meetings - it's a momentum builder!

I hope these tips were of value.

Much of what I have learned is because of the Shepa team. They have a high value conference kit brochure that SHOULD be on the list of every conference committee.

Happy networking, Paul

Why weddings?

2011-07-19T21:07:00.000-07:00

Ok ok let's have this talk

This is the time of year
when I explain to friends colleagues and co-workers
about my hobby of helping with weddings

Not a planner, I don't do all the work
Wedding number 7 dubbed us ( me and my partner in crime )
"wedding whisperers" in the tradition of the other great Ceasar

But WHY?

Let's address the evil reasons first:
*warning, this is going to make me look crazy

1. Jerry Seinfeld once said that public speaking was no.1 on the top fears list. Death was no.3! So people would rather be in the box than giving the eulogy!
When I was too junior to 'be allowed' to speak in front of people. This was a chance to do it on a time limit, in a high pressure situation and you are forced to make an emotional connection, as opposed to most public speaking opportunities. So many soft skills like project management, client service, vendor and peer professionalism - all business muscles get flexed and my role is to NOT be personal. I'm there to do business, not have a good time, so everyone else can.

2. I release my evil inner control freak - to do good! There are timelines, spreadsheets and it is all under my command. I have a binder and you don't. All the beautiful people will do as I say! Ah-haha haa haa aha *ahem. In a business and personal world where I insist on letting go, being flexible and open to dialogue, here is one place where a benevolent dictatorship can actually do some good

3. I can right wrongs. No one is paying me, I can do whatever the hell I want. SO! I WILL tell your rude aunt that today, she can't terrorize the bride by telling her "you look fat". Like a linebacker I'm on her like white on rice baby. I can shut down drunk uncle charlie, vet those dumb best man speeches and other "grab the mike" fools who derail so many important days. The focus is on the couple, this day WILL be beautiful, I WILL create some awe and wonder in this world so help me God.

Ok ok, on to the good reasons:

1. It allows the couple and the wedding party/family to actually have a great day. This is a big day, a big investment, a big change. Everyone around you is emotionally compromised. Myself and my partner manage things from 5am to the afterparty and encourage everyone to send ugly things our way. Don't ask your brother to handle the video camera, this is a big day for him too. Keeping things on time and on track is a lot of pressure, don't put it on someone who wants to celebrate with you, a semi-pro ensures your guests have a great time but aren't bored with 3 hours of inside joke speeches ( "member when we..." ). It is an honour to call out great people. The weddings I MC'd this summer were of two humble, kind, generous couples that would never let me praise them in public. The world needs more good people and on this day, they need to know, everyone in that room loves them and yes, they deserve it.

2. I'm not going to lie. I have a LOT of fun and learn so much ( we have learned Sikh, Punjabi, Chinese, Filipino and Seventh Day Adventist traditions - as the Globe and Mail recently said, cross-cultural learning is a business bonus ). I have also gotten so much closer with friends as a result of helping their big day be a perfect day. I have memories ( and war stories ) that will last forever. Most people will only be on the inside of a few weddings. I'm working on number 40.

3. I fall in love all over again every time. Again, I'm not going to lie, I am a ruthless romantic. My wife is a scientist who puts up with me and loves that I get it all out in the mosh-pit of love that is a wedding. Every ceremony I look at her, tears in my eyes and she rolls hers and thinks "here he goes again". But with babies, dogs and cats, make no mistake it helps me remember why I got into this deal "to the death" ( what a non-english speaking officiant once called a wedding during a ceremony )

After all, I'm a man. What are my options?
Watching sports, drinking beer,
scratching myself while watching sports drinking beer?
Whatever.

I'll stick with weddings.
The open bar doesn't hurt ...

Business Cards

2011-06-17T22:45:00.000-07:00

I love business networking

The power of connecting has helped me
change lives and create daily value

But I've been puzzled my entire life at "bosses" attitude towards business cards.

Some people give them out so sparingly
like they are made of gold.
Some believe they are a symbol of status and not all employees should have them
Some never carry the damn things - even to a networking event!

In 2011, when business cards are cheaper and more dynamic than ever
the time has come to give cards to your entire team.

Teach them how to use them, when to give them out. My favourite networking book teaches this method.

If you send staff out into the world without cards
you're leaving $ on the table
you might as well blindfold them

The cost! The cost!! Cry the bean counters
Only management needs them! Cry the closest egotists
Really? And the every-day staff have no network?
They have worked here longer than you
know the vendors, the fans, the customers
know the company better
And they can't have cards?!?!?

Here are some thoughts and suggestions:

1) If cost and status is your hang up, create a generic card that ALL staff have access to and can give out with all your coordinates ( yes including twitter )

2) Sure work has given you a boring card. You should always have a non-work non-boring card with your LinkedIn and twitter account - consider Moo.com's minicards!

3) On that note. No job? They are called "contact cards" how will someone who has a job to give you find you if you meet at an event?!

4) How about a conversation starter? The greenest business card in the world!! 100% recycled paper, vegetable inks, bullfrog powered and they plant a tree with every order!!

4) Business cards are like lottery tickets every one you give away has the potential to be a winner!

5) Want to take your card use to the NEXT level? Read this book

I leave you with a little bus-card etiquette. PN

A note to twitter followers

2011-05-29T21:49:00.000-07:00

Greetings and welcome new Twitter follower!

I wanted to go beyond just the standard
"thank you for following me" line.

But I am grateful for the follow and your time.

My Personal Mission statement: Promote purposeful passionate people to help them reach professional and personal potential while enjoying life to the fullest.

I am here to help you. To add value.

Besides Twitter, you might consider
connecting with me on LinkedIn
but only if we can do business
that will benefit you.

My trademark seeker statement:
"If hindsight is 20/20,
I want to view life
using the clear vision
of others learned wisdom"

That's where you come in.
Please share, teach and guide.
I am listening.

My only requirement for Tweeps
is that we use our time to help
others whenever possible.

Thanks again!

Paul Nazareth

Oh...and one more thing...

Fear of loss

2011-05-29T21:13:00.000-07:00

This is going to be a confusing post.
It won't have as much of a point as usual.

Just a comment that really rocked me this morning.
Here's why.

Yesterday while doing the big "dish wash" on Saturday afternoon
I was listening to this rather deep show on death on CBC's Tapestry

That night I watched a surprisingly well told story by Clint Eastwood - Hereafter ( don't hate on Matty D until you see it )

Before I went to sleep a chapter of one of the greatest stories
of love and loss was on TV ( don't judge!!! ) It is the story of the danger of "the fear of loss"
What it can lead us to do.

So this morning while listening to a random CBC show on "forgiveness"

I heard a father talking about something his daughter said to him before she was killed in an accident:
"Don't cry because it's over.... Smile because it happened."

I think about loss a lot. It's part of my job, of all our lives.
I would love to hear your opinion some time.

Or now. Comments are welcome.

Funny business is still business

2011-05-17T21:58:00.000-07:00

I'm getting tired of being tackled every damn time
I take a picture for Twitter or a blog post

So I've gotten in the habit of asking
1. Can I take a picture to promote you
2. Do you have a Twitter handle?

The answer is usually:

1. Wow thank you!
2. Haa haha Social Media is stupid, what is Twitter?

So I work in a new area now and I was out and about today for lunch

Working with events over the years
I am a sucker for sharp, beautifully arranged flowers
Today I saw a whole shop of near perfection
and had to just stop and stare, and Tweet!

I walked in and asked my questions and had to stop at #1

"No no you can't take any pictures,
we've had some funny business"

What about those flowers. Nope.
These ones? No.

But I want to send a note to event planners
brides and fundraisers in my business network.
We have a website, send them there.

Wow. How very web 1.0

Looking at the Pistil website, I get it. They have signature stuff.
But like Seth Godin says, if your art is a secret
and you must patent/defend it
You don't make art, you make widgets

The art is you and your work and your relationship with your customer

So *phew* good news Pistil!
I'm nobody, I'm not a customer
Tell me to shut up and get out,
you lost nothing
I won't be up to any funny business

But the last thing you'll get from me
....is my business

Son of a B!?&# they have a cool blog though!

YNP II provides Proof. Networking is alive and well

2011-05-13T20:59:00.000-07:00

Another fantastic event by Stephen Thomas
for Young Non-Profit professionals

Ironic that it was held at a bar called "Proof".
Although the bar alludes to Vodka, this event to me is proof that someone out there is willing to invest in young talent at a time when the sector is grinding them up like sausage meat. Took guts to make networking the main event. And damn it worked!
But I digest....

Thoughts from a night of high impact networking...

Several people commented that I cheated
and brought my own nametag
If you ever see me, I NEVER wear lanyards.
They are networking death
Always turned the wrong way,
they direct your attention down to the stomach
And I gots enough problems going on around there,
why direct your attention to the scene of the crime?!
BTW: Here's where to wear it....

No, we all have those "work" magnetic nametags now.
So....just take that one and slip it in the nametag!
Also, an idea discussed on Twitter by my social media mentors:
Leah, Kimberley and Claire - write your handle on all nametags!

More brilliance? Check out the five tips they sent out the day before:

1. Bring a stack of business cards, you just never know
2. Download the attendee list here
3. Like us on facebook, if you haven't already. (Facebook sucks, follow them on LinkedIn)
4. Are you on twitter? Use the hashtag #YNPcanada to find other YNP'ers
5. Got a smartphone? Download these 2 free apps: Bump & RedLaser

Take note AFP and CAGP conference committee's.
1,2 and 4 should be a "must" before all professional gatherings. Period.

Lastly, I set up about 15 coffee meetings for later..
but a word of comment...
Can we retire the phrase "pick your brain"
Leave that to the zombies.

In the mean time, congrats ST team.

Another slam dunk.

Whatta man - Ken Wyman

2011-05-11T20:49:00.000-07:00

Went to the Humber College portfolio viewing tonight

In a wicked-dynamic space created by ING.
Centre for Social Innovation
meets Jamba Juice with bank machines
Seriously, check it out HERE and in the Globe n'Mail

Some solid networking done but my favourite part
was watching Ken Wyman work the room for his students
This is a guy who has seen success,
has done his bit for King, Queen & country
advocates, works hard, he hustles for those in his care.

He goes beyond educator, to shepherd
A bodhisattva of sorts, here to help others find their voice
Something the great Steven Covey stresses in the 8th habit

There is no patron saint for fundraisers, a big beef of mine
and sure Ken's not dead yet, far from it
but I'm going to start gathering my papers
to make a case-for-support ( pardon the pun )

AFP honoured him, he is well known in the community
Fundraising, young professionals, we all owe this guy a debt of gratitude
He raises the bar on humanity, humility and professional excellence

Sure he's not as ripped as his enviro-peer David

But Whatta man......

A professional love letter on defying gravity

2011-05-06T03:15:00.000-07:00

This is a little embarassing
Yes, I love .............musicals.
( don't you judge me!)

Yesterday I was speaking at a conference aptly named "Passion for Philanthropy"

My session was a short version of my human mission statement: "Passion for people, networking for cause and career".

As you know I'm going through a bit of a metamorphosis right now....
As BOTH Peter Parker and Seth Brundle once said:
"Something is happening to me"

I gave a session that was unfettered by the baggage I've carried for years working in non-profit. It was exhilarating.

And I have no idea what the future holds but my joy yesterday was made so much more powerful by people who continue to impact me. As usual...I'll name names:

Scott Fortnum embodies passionate professionalism with joy and an open heart

Tania Little an expert fundraiser and social media guide where few exist right now

Deborah LeGrove breaks down the ingredients of excellence in a sector that shows little value for it

Fraser Green continues to push us to FEEL the power of philanthropy ( and our own humanity ) in the middle of a heartless paper driven sector

and I wouldn't be at Georgian if not for the mentorship and support of Linda Clemow and Kim Goggins

At one point I said something that years ago would have got me fired....
A rant but important point about blackberry's....and got spontaneous applause?

On my drive home and now on my drive up to my fortress of solitude,
UofT's Hart House Farm,
where I go to reflect between every job change for the past 15 years

I'm listening to the soundtrack for "Wicked"
These two characters embody the personal war I'm fighting.

The "good witch" , the world of charity, seemingly knoble but often dysfunctional and unkind

The "bad witch" of for-profit who is easy to hate but whose intentions are often pure...

I'm off to think and reflect, something busy people never do. I haven't for years.
Wise mentors push me to stop and think often. I am so grateful to these and the dozens of other peers who lead and teach me

My question to you is, who are your teachers?
Your personal board of directors?
Have you told them what they do for you? Is it time for a board meeting, turnover?

I leave you with a song about how I feel at this very moment. Thanks for reading!

Get it all out of your system

2011-05-04T22:05:00.000-07:00

Big change in my career right now
An identity shift

Yesterday I was a medium sized fish in a small pond
Today I'm like a booger floating in the ocean

But it goes deeper that that
- ironically I've been speaking about this shift publicly for years

When a non-profit professional moves over to for-profit they call it "turning to the dark side". I remember when a great peer of mine moved. It was tragic to watch them being treated differently

I always found this attitude incredibly ignorant.
So I shared this opinion and warned peers the risk they were taking --- that annoying and maybe insulting a valuable network contact whose influence has just tripled
may be the wrong move.

So I just made that move.
As you can see at my "coming out party" last night
I couldn't pass up the opportunity to poke fun...

But both I and you, dear network,
have a few months.

Come fall 2011.
I'll stop making the jokes.
When you say it, I won't be mean or embarrass you.
I'll probably smile, but come nightfall,
There will be one less trusted peer in my network

This is not a threat

I am always working to test the best in my network
to offer my opportunity and resources to propel you further, faster
But as always, I demand an attitude of abundance, kindness and humility
(and you should demand it from me, always)

We've got a battle to fight, some heavy lifting to do.
And as a wise-guy said, "do or do not"....

May the force....be with us both!

The Hidden Job Market

2011-04-24T23:34:00.000-07:00

I have always found the term
"The Hidden Job Market" confusing

As a networking enthusiast I strongly believe the worst time to look for a job is when you need one and the best time to network is when you are least in need ( more on that later )

Those that know me will know that I'm going to change jobs very soon
A major life change for me.
I'm not changing sectors, still in philanthropy
But I am switching perspectives

In considering a place I never thought I'd find myself
I stumbled onto a curious sight this week in an upscale parking garage
(looking for my Zipcar) where condos average $1 million

Look at these photo's below...
An office (family photo's and all) in the middle of a parking garage!
I asked the attendant, this person is there 9-5 every day!
Would you imagine yourself here 5 years ago? 5 years from now?
I was told it's a very good salary, free parking downtown, private and peaceful
.......you want to talk about a "hidden job"?!

Marketing advisor Promod Sharma posted a great article from Forbes on LinkedIn
citing the brilliant concept of a "Reputation Economy" created by Web 2.0 and Social Media

Networking has never been more important for your career
Looking at online postings and applying through HR just won't cut it.

Hope those in my network and beyond can join me at the Annex Live on May 3 ( 5 - 7pm ) for a quick celebration of my job move after work
No RSVP, no pressure, no cost, just your time.

If you can't come, please, let me be of help to achieve your goals.
If you set them, I'm here to help...and am at your service.

CAGP Conference Networking

2011-04-06T19:54:00.000-07:00

So! The conference is upon us.

CAGP 2011 And I have a lot of favours to repay.

Early in my career when I got into town
I'd wander the first night to eat alone with a newspaper.
Peers accosted me, took me to dinner. Networked, taught me, we had fun.

Now. You're in MY house, it's payback time and this time. It's personal.

So! Networking offer #1.
Tuesday night April 12. I'll be in the hotel lobby at 6ish.
I have five people already coming out.
Join us and we'll go for dinner nearby.
Nothing fancy, just peers starting the networking off early.

Email me at paulcnazareth at gmail dot com
or @UinvitedU on Twitter

Networking offer #2.
Saturday morning April 16th.
A few of us will gather in the hotel lobby at 10am
( sleep in for pete's sake! )
We'll go for breakfast and I'll be driving
six people to the airport at noon and six at 2pm.

Seriously, people did this for me in Vancouver, Halifax and Banff.

Have a great conference.

Say hello, I'd love to help you enjoy my town!
I don't like Toronto, I love it and I'd love to show you why.

Thanks for the chance to meet, listen and learn.

LinkedIn Tips

2011-03-28T01:39:00.000-07:00

LinkedIn is the Facebook of Business.

In March 2011 it crossed 100 million users.

I am user 18, 717, 680 and joined in 2007. Hardly an early adopter.

But I've read books on it, bumbled my way through the newbie mistakes and social faux-pas. I'm an unabashed fan, promoter and speaker on how to use it for personal success.

I've found and created great value here. Seth Godin often says not to hold on to your best value ...I've been doing that...sorry.

So here now are my 2011 updated LinkedIn tips. (download to print)

Use them in good health, challenge me on them please and if you find them helpful, forward/tweet to someone else!

1) It’s not a resume. It’s a digital business card + opening conversation. Use the opening section to explain why you are the best at what you do and different than the million other people doing it. Match this to your networking style. Bold, clever, succinct, reserved – make it your words.

2) Newbie tip!! Don’t EVER use the standard line “I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn”. Change it every time. Let them know where you met, how you know each other and why you want to connect. In 25 words or less. This will get you a 90%+ connection rate.

3) You don’t need to have a killer profile right away. Take your time. I didn’t expand my original profile from just my name and work title for two whole years! Also, you don’t need to upload a picture right away. Remember the picture is 1 inch squared, make it professional (no photos from weddings) but interesting. Not facebook interesting, something that says “I’m a professional, hire me”.

4) Growing connections list, ( #1 new user stress): 95% people you know, 5% strangers. 1. People you already know well. 2. People you’ve worked with in the past. 3. People you know professionally. Optional: 4. Take your time with this, people who lead in your sector, professional heroes or teachers. Follow your gut: Stranger danger! Ignore invitations from strangers and profile surfers. For now. Tip: Connect first to well networked peers to save time looking for names you both know.

5) Eventually, take a risk on step four (above). Know who you want to connect to and enlist others to help. Be bold, aim high. International contacts, authors and big thinkers are here to meet others just like you. I have tried and it worked with powerful results.

6) “Groups” and “LinkedIn Answers” are a huge amplifier of time invested. Again, connect to those in the know and join the groups they’re part of. Answer questions in groups at least once a month. Look at LinkedIn “Answers” in categories that connect to your business and answer questions with useful resources and you’ll become known as a “go to professional”. This will help you make more contacts outside your immediate network but in your sector. It will help dynamic like-minded people find you.

7) Recommendations are important. Consider who you have made an impact on and ask. When you ask be specific about what business or characteristics you’d like them to highlight for you. Give them an out if they’re uncomfortable. HR people look online for this, have at least three. Tip: Fastest way to get recommendations is consider who has made an impact in your career, connect and do this for them!

8) Have rules. Know who you don’t want to connect you. Set a daily time limit for use. Originally I went from 30mins a week, to ten mins a day max. This is not Facebook! It is also addictive and can waste your time. As in your business life – follow the revenue line!! Time = money.

9) If you’re a book reader, upload what you’re reading ( in the Amazon reading list ) and favourite business books online to help others understand how you think and what you value.

10) Use the status update line to provide business value, not updates on your life. Connect to a business titled Twitter account and you’ll double your audience. 2011 tip, too much tweeting annoys your connections. If you tweet a lot, don’t connect these accounts. Your network will turn off your updates and ignore you.

Final word: LinkedIn is a wonderful tool but is seeking to monetize you! Don’t do everything the program tells you when you join like uploading all your information or resume. Go at your own pace. Making your address and phone number visible is a no-no.

Hope it's of help and value... Contact me any time, LinkedIn rules.

Twitter turns five! Who cares!

2011-03-21T21:01:00.000-07:00

Ok ok so this post is going to sound bitter and jaded.

Mostly because it is.

I'll say it again. WHO CARES?!

Facebook has 500 million users
LinkedIn is closing in on 100 million
Twitter at 5 years has over 75 million

And yet, to many of Canada's largest charities, the social media policy is simple.

Nah, we're good. We'll...take a pass.

I didn't just offer you a baloney sangwich
I'm talking about a media revolution here!!

Still good thanks. Please don't do it at the office.

Many have told me, we'll only invest in one.
So of course they're all on Facebook.
Let me outright state my bias.
I hate Facebook, it's too damn messy.
People don't want to do business next to drunken weekend pictures.

I know it's the best way to build awareness and community.
Business networking is my comfort zone, LinkedIn rules for this.
I know what everyone is there to do.
We do it, and get back to real life.

But even I see the need to be in the conversation.

I was speaking to a peer in charge of communicating with teenagers for a charity.
Her beat is schools and tweens.
She is banned from Facebook at the office.
She knows that even though she gets paid, she is a fraud. She doesn't exist.
And it's killing her.

At this point most of you reading this know that social media is here to stay
And while it stays it's changing the world.

You are in the VAST minority. Don't kid yourself.

Why am I telling you this?

1) I'm BEGGING you to help my favourite charities catch up. Be ready for the call.

2) Join me for a cup of tea while we watch the Luddite Captain sink the Titanic

Should be fun.

So! Please take Digital Leap through the roof!

My beloved CSI
You are a daily inspiration
And I covet you daily
I'll send more people your way to be terrified at what you represent...

The titans of social media in my tiny little world continue to stomp around... making trouble and disturbing web 1.0 users

I will gratefully watch,
listen and learn.

Congrats though Twitter.

I would have come to the party
but my typewriter is out of ribbon...

Timeraiser - What a year!

2011-03-20T21:49:00.000-07:00

When was the last time you really stepped out of your comfort zone?

Because of a program called "Timeraiser" I did for the past year...
It was uncomfortable and surprisingly exhilarating!

It all began when I joined a LinkedIn group called UnitedWay Toronto GenNext.

A group that was all about "giving a damn" in your city and engaging young professionals.

The first event coming up was called the "Timeraiser 2010". As someone who works in non-profit, I thought the idea was both brilliant and fascinating.

I went to the event, it was affordable, fun, in a hip and trendy location and had incredible music
(Franklin's Fault - Incredible live band blues, jazz, funk )

Got swept up in the bidding and the concept of actually having my own original piece of art!

I work up the next day and thought, hey no sweat...I used to volunteer 40 hours a week!
But that was before the wedding ring, dog, cat, baby etc...

It was an interesting year. I met some crazy professional volunteers at a Blue Jays game, which actually led to my first blog post.

Took me outside my comfort zone
as I usually only volunteer with charities I donate to and know well.

Met many amazing professionals and continue to volunteer at the uber-professional Acces Employment Services in Toronto. I joined GenNext for a Speed mentoring evening of theirs. Very well organized, great use of time, highly recommend it.

Even when I helped out with PR for the event I was learning how to use new Twitter functions.

Did some board and other community work - all to end up back at the 2011 event.

Last night was a lot of fun. I picked up my art and capped off an amazing year.

I meet so many people who tell me "I need to get out more and network"
but I know, it's tiring! Exhausting just thinking about it.

Let me confess here:
Timeraiser gave me the motivation.
GenNext makes it easy.
The charities make it way too much fun to do something good for this world.
Make no mistake I engaged in some $$ making business networking at the event
I met new people who are professionals like me and are now part of my network
I'm a CBC radio junkie and got to meet Garvia Bailey, host of Big City, Small World

It GAVE me energy. Aided my happiness and success in work and life.
I feel almost guilty for going through the experience and ending up ahead.

So! Join GenNext on LinkedIn , Twitter or online today.

Don't miss Timeraiser 2011 in your city or in Toronto in 2012
( I'll be there! )

Thank you deeply Timeraiser and GenNext team, you have given me a great gift.

I am eternally grateful.

A new place is born - YNP Canada

2011-03-10T20:52:00.000-08:00

This is my hat
and tonight it goes off to:

Brock Warner,
Diane Faure and the team at Stephen Thomas Ltd.

Now, I'm not going to lie.

I'm openly pissed off and jealous that they made the first move.

Others have tried, so many have flapped their jaws about it ( me included )

But no one bit the bullet, ate the budget and came out, network swinging.

Someone had to do this. Sure I hold private events for my network. But a big brand, a respected player in the community had to come out and take the lead.

Not only was it branded well but a well chosen speaker nailed the tone and the topic.

Drew Dudley and the ST team said the "unspeakable". Something I've been dying to hear from the many fundraising "associations" but just could not and would not be said.

We know the system is broken.
So make sure you know how to work it, understand why you're here
and when the time comes.....
Quit. Get out. Follow your heart, dreams and gut. There is success there.

I loved that Drew quoted from my beloved Seth Godin and Robin Sharma.
He asked us to consider how we value ourselves, our work and not to judge ourselves against the barometer of others.

I met so many new people! Very refreshing
A nod to the Humber class of 2011 great to see you out.

Although ST team... tsk tsk. Where was the commercial? The speech, ST hand stamps?

I already respected your team but I wouldn't refer you out of just gratitude - I will on the fact that you made this happen because it was the right thing to do and you kept your institutional integrity. Which is so rare.

This team continues to, as Seth Godin says "ship". FIRST.

A real contribution to our community was made tonight.

A new safe space for young third sector professionals ( I won't say nfp Drew... )

Very exciting stuff. I look forward to future events...

Sleep well ST - you did some real good today.

"Leadership and learning are indespensable to each other" JFK

Brock, Drew, Diane and CEO of ST ... Neil G

Twittervenger or Twitternoyance?

2011-02-26T01:00:00.000-08:00

Two connected profiles.
One too weak, one too active....

I do spend a good deal of time on LinkedIn.
Make no mistake, it pays me dividends in work and life.
It's the Facebook of business.

But a select few were hogging my update page.
With good and interesting information - but too much.
Then there are the um. other posts.
The ones meant for Facebook [ I crinkle my nose at that word ]

A week ago a peer of mine confessed to me ......
"You post too much on LinkedIn, it's annoying"
Me?!?!? But then I realized that I was caught between worlds.

Too much on LinkedIN...not engaged enough on Twitter.

Just because you can link them, doesn't mean you should. Got it.

So three steps here....

1) I'm going to "hide" the updates of those who post too much on linkedin. Yes, I'll miss their useful updates but when you swear or post too much about your day or dinner - I'm out

2) I've partially disconnected my two accounts. Good for you LinkedIn, they have a new feature where you can still post but in a modified way.

3) I am going to commit to learning how to use Twitter. Found out that I've missed a few opportunities because I didn't know. I just don't want to end up like this guy.

So, I'm going to learn from the jedi masters in my business network who put out useful information....
The Agents of Good
Scott Fornum
Claire Kerr
Paula Attfield at Stephen Thomas
Jenny Henry
Kimberley MacKenzie

Thanks for teaching me how to do it right!

Just one confession to be clear.
I started using LinkedIn a lot more when we had a baby and I was home a lot more.
I'm using Twitter a lot more because I finally got a smartphone
So THAT's how I'll manage the time. Waiting for the bus!

Now my profiles will hopefully look and be more like this

a challenge to leaders - you need to be a mentor

2011-02-16T20:32:00.000-08:00

Two leaders, two days.

Yesterday I sat with a mentor in my life. Someone I observe often.

They helped me a ton a few years ago by letting me watch how they solved problems
- management problems
- strategy problems
- interpersonal problems
- family problems
- life problems

It was of huge value early in my career

There plenty of great mentoring programs out there

But what I'm talking about isn't formal

It's three face to face meetings a year - that's it

Just let young professionals understand why you're human
ESPECIALLY if you have a rep of being superhumanly awesome

Let 'em see inside the kitchen of your mind.
Like my cooking mentors
Urban Peasant, Wok with Yan and Pasquale

Was with another brilliant professional today
In their sector they were unmatched and the sun is setting on their working life

But they didn't build a successor. No direct mentoring at all.

And now a professional legacy is dying. What a waste.

So! Hot shot. Start today.
40 year old Directors. Start today.

30 something up and comers. Call a big name. Ask to buy them lunch.

DON'T SAY "can I pick your brain"
- that's what zombies do

"Can I listen and learn"

I know, it's hard for me to shut up too.

Get lunchin'

Do you have social media insurance?

2011-02-12T13:37:00.000-08:00

Welcome.....to your everything.

Let me just go on a tangent for a second. I WANT THAT TIE/POCKET SQUARE COMBO - I've been scouring the internet - I will pay anything. *ahem* back to the topic at hand.

Three smart cookies got me thinking....

Malcolm Burrows asked about a digital estate plan

Promod Sharma went through a social media black out

Susan RoAnne asked the question....service or spam?

We have insurance for our physical stuff...what about our digital stuff?

Anyone who knows me knows that I'm a huge promoter of LinkedIn.
I don't use Facebook and haven't invested in other social media
(ok, I have a Twitter account - but because it's connected to my LinkedIn!)
I have put all my eggs in one basket.

I have important contacts in there
Blog posts with ideas I want to remember
Recommendations that are important to my career
Book reviews of great reads

If LinkedIn starts to pull a Facebook, or if the service goes down or under

What then?

Thanks for the thought!

So I backed as much as I can up today.

Nothing huge, just cut and paste into Word.

But if there's a digital disaster... I'll be ok.

Something you might want to consider?

Go on the attack, do it right now.
(Ps. LinkedIn has a really cool "export" into Excel function!! )

After all, the best defense...

Thinking ahead - A powerful Canadian Resource

2011-02-06T13:20:00.000-08:00

Now What?!

It's a question more boomers are asking themselves as they care for aging parents - as they age too

Many of us in sectors that serve "seniors" need to understand the challenges they face.

Have more resources in our network to help them when we can't or shouldn't.

Those of us with family need to start having the tough conversations around these issues

Who can help? Sherri Auger.

A great teacher and speaker in my network - she should be in yours too!

Recently Sherri co-wrote this powerful book (with former Macleans editor Barbara Wickens ). The book includes:
- How to emotionally deal with illness, aging and death of a loved one
- Actual scripts for families looking to have honest conversations
- How to navigate the very confusing Canadian health and aging care industry
- The actual resources needed and steps to take when someone dies

Through her company "Caring Matters" she has been helping people deal with the tough questions for almost two decades.

Check out her blog or her book.

I asked several peers of mine to review the book they all came back with the same response.

They couldn't stay objective. The book taught them how to start acting now!

Here's one email I got from a Director of fundraising who I expected a technical response from..... "My mother is 81 and lives on her own. For her, it is improper to talk about private issues. Death and estate planning are two of those very private subjects.

Therefore, my brothers and I are in the dark, so to speak,
when it comes to knowing about her end of life wishes.

After reading the book I called my mom and told her we need to iron out both her end of life wishes, and her late life wishes. I also said we need to make contingency plans should her health fail. Initially she was reserved and uncomfortable. But, after a few calls she agreed to a series of meetings to work out details.

In our most recent phone conversation, my mother thanked me for caring and confided that she just “didn’t want to bother anyone”. For our meeting next week, we will start going over a number of items, including several that were brought to my attention by the book.

Thanks again for putting me on to “Now What”. The process has begun for us."

I have watched Sherri speak from years of experience.

I would trust my loved ones to her expertise and care.

Do you want to understand your aging clients or donors better?

Book Sherri to speak to your team or group.

Don't be caught asking......"Now What?!"